Community!

I think people use this word a little too loosely. I personally put it in quotes all the time because I think it is a little of a joke to say it. I do not feel that the "Commmunity" is very unified. Between all the flame wars and differences in values, views and opinions I think it can be a little sticky.

In some situations I do feel there is a "community" among people medically transitioning but it is a far cry from the "we are all united" thing people try to make it out to be. There are always wars going on about one thing or the other.

Stealth Vs. Not stealth
Male Privelege Vs. Feminist mentality
Lower surgery Vs. No lower surgery
Pre- transition Vs. later in/ post transition
blah vs. Blah

All of the for mentioned things are legitimate conversations to have BUT there are always those knuckleheads FOOLS that believe will should all agree because we are a community! Just cause we take a similar medication and have similar medical procedures does not mean that we have the same experience! Get over it people WE ARE NOT ALL THE SAME! I don't even like most transmen/ transitioned men/ transmasculine individuals! Why should I? Just because you have a certain label does not make you someone I like or even want to know! I give people a chance but I don't want to sit around and talk about transition all the time! Unless I am asking or answering a question briefly in an online community I really would rather just discuss life stuff.

I have a LIFE not a LIFESTYLE and I think that is what people try and use interchangeably which leads to problems. I do not eat sleep and breathe transness!
When I am with my wife I am not thinking about transition!
When I am with my daughter I am not thinking about transition!
When I am working I am not thinking about transition!
When I am out to the movies I am not thinking about transition!

To be honest I really don't think about "transition" issues unless I am online or I am naked (which is usually reserved for hygenic rituals such as bathing!)

I just wanted to put that out there!

What do you guys think about the "Community"? I look forward to your comments.