I told my brothers

After blogging up a storm and posting up a storm online last night I decided to mention to my brothers that I was having surgery and let it go from there. I have 2 brothers. The older of the 2 is really conservative and a church Deacon (I will refer to him as BB for Bigger Brother). The other is more laid back and down to earth(Who I refer to as BH= Bighead as I so affectionately call him).

I sent BB a text (We communicate better via text) asking him about some family stuff coming up and to see when he might be free to talk. He told me that the times that I was going to try and see him he will be out of the country for a mission trip. I told him I wanted to try and talk to him face to face. It didn't seem like it was going to happen so I just let him know I'm having surgery in a few weeks. He asked if everything was okay since I did have a liver scare back in December (which turned out to be nothing). I told him that I was having "THE surgery". I used those words because I knew he would get the picture. He replied by saying that he though I already had it. When I was having top surgery I just told him I was having a transition related surgery and left it at that. I know discussing this stuff makes him feel awkward so I didn't tell him what so I understand the confusion since he knows nothing about transition related surgeries and would never look it up. Also since I had top surgery he knows someone saw me at a urinal so I guess he assumed I already had genital surgery for that reason as well. I explained to him that there are multiple surgery related to the "medical process" and he said ok. I didn't want to give him too much info but wanted him to feel in the loop. I also know he would respect the fact that I am telling him as opposed to him hearing through the grapevine (MY MOTHER!) He did appreciate that. I told him if I he had any questions I am open to answering them and if he didn't want to discuss it any more that was fine too but I wanted to leave the opportunity for communication open. He said that he appreciated that and might have a few minor questions but nothing too much because all of this is awkward for him. BB has been great at referring to me as his brother and using male pronouns when we are around other people. He also consistantly uses my name and even wished me a Happy Father's Day. I know it is hard for him at times due to his faith and feeling conflicted but I know he loves me enough to accept me for me which I appreciate.

I sent BH a text basically saying that I wanted him to know that I was having surgery in August. He also immediately thought it was related to the previously mentioned health scare. I told him know I am just getting "The big surgery". I used this term because when I told him I was medically transitioning he asked if I was gonna get "the big surgery". At that time I told him I will let him know what is going on as it becomes relevant.
Today while we were texting he asked if I was sure I want to do that. I told him yes I am very sure and I waited this long to make sure I made the right decision for me. He said that as long as I am sure that's what I want to do and I'm happy then I have his blessing. I wasn't really seeking his blessing but it is nice that he gave it anyway. I asked him if he had any questions to let me know. He said he has enough info so he doesn't have any questions and we are good! (He love bloody horror movies but medical bloody stuff and needles freak him out so he doesnt like discussing any type of surgery which I understand). He just wants me to let him know when I go and make sure he gets a text or call to let him know everything is okay when I get out.

I was so nervous about how to approach telling them and what the outcome would be. I am glad that I finally got that out of the way. If either of them does come with questions I will probably blog about that conversation in case it might help other guys. The countdown continues!