I have been playing with the idea of sharing pictures but as I get closer to surgery I really don't know if I will. At least not on the net.My wife made some good points about how With people spamming and stealing content it wouldn't be a good idea. On one hand I have only seen one penis from a guy of my complexion on the net. I appreciated that. I want to sort of pay it forward. I think it would be ironic that I don't really show my chest because I am modest and shy YET I am actually considering putting my penis out there. I think it has to do with the fact that there are dark skin men with top surgery pictures and as I mentioned only 1 of a post op penis 2 if I consider the one a shade or so lighter.
I don't want my genitals up for judgement. I have heard the things people say of even the best of surgery and how discouraging people can be. If I saw or heard those things about my post op genitals I would feel awkward. I would also feel upset for me putting myself in such a vulnerable position to have people be negative and judgemental. My wife worries about this too and fears it will make my dysphoria worse. When I think of this I understand why there are not as many photos out there.
I guess I will just have to see how I feel post op and go from there. I will definitly be taking photos to track my healing and for my personal viewing.
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Hm, I kind of agree with not sharing photos at the risk for potential human "asshatery."
ReplyDeleteSome folks really do not care about how their words (blatant or otherwise) effect others. They will scrutinize, compare, etc all in the name of their own 'struggle' and forget that there is a person connected to that picture.
I'd thumbs up sharing in light of the fact that there are so few darker toned photos out there. However, I'd suggest maybe sharing with a pseudonym and you not checking in on the comments, etc. Also, If ignorant/abusive comments are a concern you could only share it with folks that are really going to get lower surgery. People that can seriously confirm that it's not a flight of fancy, or something they are just thinking about, of sound mind
etc.
You could still give helpful information with the pic file and it can be used as a valuable resource without causing injury (you wouldn't be reading comments). Also, you could put the pics out like a year or more after the surgery! That way you'd have had some time to be alone.
You are not responsible for anyone else. Especially at the cost of your own happiness.