Along with some other commentary about the "female experience" and being feminist.
I responded to them respectfully stating that my thoughts, experience and opinion differ.
They made a comment about being raised female and how that is a disadvantage in being able to relate to cismen. I responded saying that I guess I was lucky for not being "raised female". I said this being "sarcastic and because my upbringing WAS NOT FEMALE!
Was I assigned female at birth? YES
That however does not give anyone the right to assume what I have been through and what I have experienced. Also the person was white American. As a Jamaican by culture but American by birth Person of color my experience vastly differs from theirs. I even said that later in a comment but all of a sudden I am "an asshole".
Well I am one happy asshole because I do not feel "tortured" or "less than" because of what my birth certificate used to say.
This kind of thing is getting really lame and I am getting tired of seeing it OVER and OVER again. You say you are a feminist and women shouldn;t be seen as less than because they are women but then you call yourself less than because you "used to live as a woman". Stop contradicting yourself!
UGH!
Wow. Apparently he missed the *I* point of view of your comment.
ReplyDelete"They made a comment about being raised female and how that is a disadvantage in being able to relate to cismen. "
Does that mean all those raised are disadvantaged? What about cis-gendered women or MTFs?
Now, perhaps he feels disadvantaged because he wanted all the "boys club" feel but that is specifically his view. In some ways, I feel far more advantageous because I get the blessing of understanding, in some weird way, both (but that's me).
I am curious about cultures, if I may ask a question or two. Did you grow up in Jamaica? What differences do you experience from a non-Jamaican POC in the US?
I typed a long response then there was an error. Basically how men are to be in the home is different. Men are to know how to cook, clean, iron, care for children and apply those skills accordingly. Not all men do this but it is instilled in the family.
ReplyDeleteI was born and raised in NYC but my older brothers were born in Jamaica and raised mostly here. Though I was born here I was held to Jamaican standards which sometimes conflicted with the standards of my American friends of color as well as those not of color.
I agree, my upbringing was not gendered so much as it was to ensure that I was self-sufficient. I know how to take care of myself, and I am well experienced in taking care of babies and other people. If I feel 'different' from another person, it's because I am me and they're them. LOL.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the reply. lol
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